You too?  Girlfriend, you know that’s a man’s “M.O.”, don’t you?  And I just know you ain’t putting up with that mess!

I’m a baby boomer so I’m no spring chicken… I’ve heard these kinds of stories since I understood what dating meant. Family, friends, co-workers, neighbors and even strangers will go to battle for you by telling you if a man cheats on you he’s no good and to get rid of him stat quick!  I mean come on, how do you deal with marriage after infidelity?

But, how many of them have actually dealt with the issue themselves?  Seriously, are they putting on a mask every time they step out the front door, perpetrating a fraud because some of them have their own little secrets?  And who, just who will shut up all the naysayers and listen to you as you little by little, regurgitate pieces of your heart out?

Not very many because there is much truth to the quote, “misery loves company.”  However, there is only One (if you let Him) who will take all of your pain, disappointments, confusion and frustation, His name is Jesus Christ.  That’s exactly what Nicole Cleveland, Author of “So He Cheated, Now What?” did.  Nicole’s husband not only cheated, but had a child from the affair!

I don’t believe we get to choose our battles… and yes God said the battle isn’t ours, it’s His — but still, you don’t get to choose what it’s going to be AND, it’s how you go through the process, that determines the outcome.  When you choose God’s will, He will give you a peace that surpasseth ALL worldly, naysayers included — understanding!

Nicole chose to “let go and let God”… and because she surrendered to the voice and will of God, she now shares her testimony and beautiful reunion with her husband in her book, “So He Cheated, Now What?”

If you or someone you know has dealt with or going through the struggle and pains of  infidelity, I encourage you to:

  • Grab a copy of her book here (you can immediately download it) — or if you want to have the book shipped to you, click here

So He Cheated, Now What? is a one woman’s testimonial on how she overcame an affair in her marriage. Everyday women are asking the questions,  “Do I Stay or Walk Away?” and  “Can the Trust Ever be Restored?”  Nicole Cleveland shares the steps to rebuilding trust after an affair in this book. After reading this book you will understand that marriage is a threesome and God is the ultimate restorer.

To find out more about Nicole, visit her website, BreatheAgainMinistry.org

Care to share how you’ve dealt with marriage after infidelity?  Would you like to schedule a 15 minute complimentary chat with Nicole?  Leave a comment and we’ll respond as soon as possible.

God bless!

Regina

So, He Cheated, Now What?

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  • July 20, 2012 at 3:59 pm
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    Regina – Thank you for this wonderful, much needed post. Women ( and Men) are continuing to struggle day after day with this issue. I know first hand the pain, panic and anxiety that can overpower you. God is our constant help and if it had not been for God, I am not sure if I would be sitting at this computer today. I almost lost all of who I was in the midst of the pain.

    But I come to share that God is a healer and a constant help in the THE storm, not after the storm, but during the storm.It may seem like he is nowhere to be found, but be still – Let Go & Let God !

    Bless you !

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    Regina Reply:

    Amen Nicole! He is an ever “present” in a time of trouble. I thank God for you and your message, I truly believe many will be blessed and healed by your book. Love you!

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  • July 20, 2012 at 5:45 pm
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    I’m a witness… after 22 years of marriage (military style)… I’ve learned, grown, and still rise

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    Regina Reply:

    Thanks for being a testimony Monica, we appreciate you!

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  • July 25, 2012 at 11:35 pm
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    My husband will not stop doing drugs (coke) we have been married for 29 years in total we have been together for 36 years, high school sweethearts. We have 6 children (1 deceased). We started out as teenagers getting high (smoking marijuana) then later it escalated to higher drugs. We both committed adultery when we were younger but was able to put that behind us, little that I know that after I quit doing the drugs he continued. A couple of years ago he crashed his vehicle and received a DUI after coming from his girlfriends house. In which I found out he was cheating on me for 2 years. I asked him on several occasions, did he have someone else, his answer was always “no”. It was in the middle of the year when I found out by the grace of God. He could not deny his infidelity any longer. I had to make him breakup with her over the phone, while I was standing beside him. It made me feel sick to my stomach. This took place a couple of years ago and you know he still treats me like I am nothing, he doesn’t talk to me and our children. He continues to be very prideful and arrogant about his drugs. I am an at home mom. I homeschool our children (3 are still in school). I can’t believe that I still love him. I feel stupid and stuck. He stopped giving me money. I have health issues. I pray, but I always stand in God’s way. I grew up with woman standing in God’s way so there you go. I never wanted my children in a similar situation that I grew up in. Another generation of drunks as fathers & husbands. I am failing my children and I feel like I am failing God. I need to know how to let go and let God. I need to get out of God’s way. Please help.

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    Regina Reply:

    Hi Barbara, I don’t have a quick fix it answer for you because there is none. There is nothing I can say to you about your husband and why he does/does not do the things that are un-becoming to you and your children. However, letting go is just that. Making a decision to let go of something that is a negative, non-productive entity is simple… it’s choice. Now while that may sound hard, it’s the truth. Letting go means you’re in a position to eliminate something you don’t need – especially when it’s not favorable to the will of God.

    First you may want to consider thinking about how God looks at the situation and how you’re handling it, and of course the affect it’s having on your children. Do you sincerely desire to make a decision to change for the better or can you honestly say, you’re not really ready? The reason I ask the question is because, if you’re sincerely ready, God already knows it and He’s ready to help you. If not, the deliverance won’t happen until you’re really ready.

    I did an interview recently on the topic of letting go and you can download the written transcript of it here. I also HIGHLY encourage you, if you can to pick up Nicole’s book and listen to replays of Transformation Radio with host, Enrique Pascal on the subjects of relationships here.

    I hope I’ve answered your question. Please keep in touch and know that I am in prayer for you in Jesus name!

    Regina

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