and mean what you say.

To say something means “to use your voice to express (something) with words.” {webster’s dictionary}. To mean something means:

  • to have (a particular meaning)
  • to want or intend to express (a particular idea or meaning)
  • to have (something) in your mind as a purpose or goal

For example, to say, “I have the mind of Christ” and to mean it are two separate things.  It’s easy to open your mouth and say something, but the question here is, do you actually mean what you just said?

In the bible, Joseph trusted God with everything concerning himself, regardless of what happened to him.  He deeply learned {discerned} what it meant to be humble and at the same time, he desired wisdom.

This morning as I was “self reflecting” on my life’s journey, I recalled several times of saying things but not meaning them.  While my intentions were good, I failed in executing what I said I would do.  Good intentions are never enough, and in my case, those intentions turned into failures and disappointments.  Not only for myself but for others as well.  What I have learned from those experiences is that I cannot change yesterday and I don’t dwell in pity parties, or “wish I could have messages” either.  I Have repented for those bad choices and moved on.  It is unhealthy to dwell in a space of shame, and always thinking what people are thinking about you.  People will always have something to say, its up to you to discern whether or not you will allow it to define YOU.

A friend of mine posted a message on Facebook that reads:

It is so easy to believe the “bad” press about another person. Heck if we aren’t careful, it can be easy to believe it about ourselves. Can I submit that every human being has messed up at some point in life? None of us is perfect. – LB

There is an abundance of truth in that quote.  However, non-forgiving people may not ever realize its worth.

There is absolutely nothing confusing about this; Matthew 5:37 AMP reads:  “Let your Yes be simply Yes, and your No be simply No; anything more than that comes from the evil one.”  Period.

discernment2When my husband was going through the last days of his life here on earth, the Holy Spirit revealed words to me that I will never forget.  In the hospital room on the day Ruben passed away, that very morning when I awoke, the television was on and my eyes opened to see a message scrolling… “it is finished.”  Later that night, Ruben passed away.  Why did I get it?  Because the Holy Spirit has always revealed understanding to me in 3’s.  A couple of weeks before, Ruben’s Aunt told me that as she was praying for Ruben, she quietly listened for God to speak to her.  She then heard Him say, “it is finished.”  The very next day, as Ruben was in worship, He later told me that God told him, “it is finished.”  While none of us knew at the time that it meant Ruben’s time on earth was over, when it did happen, I knew God was preparing us for his passing.   Nothing had ever been that plain to me before.  I  absolutely adore the Holy Spirit for saying what He meant, and meant what He said.  In other words, that’s it, it’s done, no more, no less — it’s over and, at the same time, He gave me a peace that surpasseth ALL worldly understanding.

I know for some, that may be a very difficult realization to come to.  Yet, *I* have always desired the will of God and I abundantly trust Him (if you don’t, hopefully you’ll choose to.)  I don’t welcome confusion and worry, there is no peace in either one.  I am enormously grate that I “hear” Him when He speaks.  I know Ruben is at peace and so am I.

I don’t want to intentionally disappoint anyone.  Been there and done that.  Now, I’ve learned to truthfully say what I mean and mean what I say.  If I know it’s not something I can’t do, I’m committed to, or I’m not available to participate in then I don’t say it.

When you make a decision to do something, mean what you say.  Accidents happen however, if you’re sincere about it, you will feel some type of discomfort when you slip up, that my friend is your gentle warning to acknowledge what you did, ask for forgiveness and move on.  Don’t allow people to define you based on things you’re saying but not doing.

I encourage you to ask God for what you need to understand.  Ask Him: “Lord, I need to know your will about this specific area of my life.” James 1:5-6 reads:

If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him.  Only it must be in faith that he asks with no wavering (no hesitating, no doubting). For the one who wavers (hesitates, doubts) is like the billowing surge out at sea that is blown hither and thither and tossed by the wind.

Are you saying what you mean, and mean what you say?  Need help? Let me know in the comment section below.

God’s grace is always amazing! 😉


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